A go bag holds what you'd need if you had five minutes to leave: documents (or photos of them), cash, medication, phone and charger, a change of clothes, keys, and anything your kids or pets can't be without. Keep it small, keep it somewhere they don't look — ideally outside the house — and pack duplicates so nothing goes visibly missing.
What a go bag is for
A go bag isn't a commitment. It's an option. Plenty of people pack one and never use it, and plenty pack one months before they were ready to admit they might. Its only job is this: if the night comes when you have to move fast, you're not choosing between your passport and your kid's inhaler in the dark.
Packing a bag isn't giving up on anything. It's refusing to be trapped by logistics.
The core list
Documents (or clear photos of them)
Driver's license or state ID, passport, Social Security card
Birth certificates — yours and your children's
Immigration papers, visas, green card, work authorization
Marriage or divorce certificates, custody orders, any protective order
Insurance cards (health, car, home), medical records, vaccination records
Lease, mortgage, deed, car title and registration
Recent tax returns, pay stubs, bank and card statements
School records for your kids
Money, keys, and medication
Cash in small bills — it works when cards get frozen or watched
A card tied to an account only you control, or prepaid/gift cards
Spare keys — house, car, mailbox, a friend's place
A written list of phone numbers, in case you lose the phone
A week of any prescription medication, plus a photo of the label or prescription
Glasses or contacts, hearing aid batteries, any medical device supplies
Tech, clothes, and comfort
Charger and a charged power bank; a USB drive with your documentation and photos
If you can manage it, a cheap prepaid phone they don't know about — the safest way to make calls after you go
One or two changes of clothes, weather-appropriate; sturdy shoes; basic toiletries
For each child: clothes, diapers/formula, a favorite toy or blanket, a comfort item they'd cry for
For pets: vaccination records, food, a leash or carrier
One thing that's just yours — a photo, a book, something that reminds you who you are
Where to keep it
Photograph everything you can't physically take. A photo of a document isn't the document, but it's dramatically better than nothing when you're standing in a courthouse or a shelter intake office — store the images in a cloud account they've never had access to, created on a device they don't use. As for the bag itself: the safest place is not your home. A bag that gets discovered doesn't just get emptied — it tells someone your plans, and that's a genuinely dangerous moment. Good options:
A trusted friend's or family member's house
Your desk, locker, or car at work
A gym locker, a storage unit, your car trunk (if the car is truly yours to use)
Split it up — documents at one place, clothes at another, cash somewhere else
If you can't keep a bag at all
Some homes are searched. Some people are watched too closely for even a small bag. If that's you, shrink the plan instead of abandoning it: photos of documents in a hidden cloud account, a small amount of cash with a friend, a written list of the three things you'd grab, and one person who knows to expect a call. That's a go bag too — it just doesn't look like one.
Have an explanation ready before you ever pack it — a gym bag, an emergency kit, a bag for a work trip or a sick relative. Better still, keep it out of the house entirely. If it is found and things escalate, treat that as a high-risk moment: call an advocate, and call 911 if you're threatened.
How big should a go bag be?
Small enough to carry in one hand while holding a child's hand, and unremarkable enough that walking out with it doesn't look like anything. A backpack or gym bag beats a suitcase. If you need more than that, split it into two locations.
Should I pack for my kids too?
Yes, and pack the emotional things, not just the practical ones — the specific stuffed animal, the blanket, the tablet with their shows on it. Those items do real work in the first frightening nights somewhere new. Keep their documents and any custody paperwork with yours.