Will my partner find out I used this?

Not unless you tell them. Your reflections are private and kept to your account; nothing is sent by email by default; and you can delete your account in one click. We're built on the assumption you value your privacy.

Can I bring this to my therapist?

Yes — the report prints as a PDF, and the Companion lets you save incidents to a private evidence file you can hand a clinician. Many survivors say it's the artifact that finally moved a therapist past circling.

What if I'm wrong about them?

Good question to keep asking — and a sign of empathy, not narcissism. The reflection isn't a verdict on the person. It names patterns in behavior. A clinician makes the diagnosis; we just give you vocabulary.

Will this make things worse?

Naming what's happening tends to clarify rather than escalate. If you're in a high-risk situation (physical violence, threats with weapons, sexual coercion), please call 1-800-799-7233 before you do anything else. Safety plan first; reflection second.

The education library and the survivor community are free, forever. The deeper, personalized tools (your AI reflection, the Companion, the evidence file) are part of a paid plan. Safety planning and crisis resources are always free.

If you're asking the question, you almost certainly aren't. NPD is defined in part by the absence of that question. Asking is empathy in action.

Co-parenting with a narcissist

Co-parenting with a narcissist usually isn't traditional co-parenting — it's managing an ongoing source of conflict while protecting your kids. The strategies that work: parallel parenting instead of cooperation, business-only communication (gray rock + BIFF), documenting everything, and being the steady, safe parent. You can't control them; you can control your responses and your home.

Stop expecting cooperation

Standard co-parenting advice assumes two people acting in good faith. With a narcissistic ex, trying to cooperate often just hands them new ways to control you. The shift that helps most is from co-parenting to parallel parenting.

Parallel parenting

Disengage from their household — you run your home, they run theirs, with minimal coordination.
Limit communication to logistics, in writing, through one channel (ideally a co-parenting app).
Use a detailed, court-ordered parenting plan so fewer things are open to “negotiation.”
Don't defend your parenting to them; answer only what's necessary.

Communicate like it could be read in court

Keep every message gray rock and BIFF (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm). No emotion, no bait, no JADE. Co-parenting apps timestamp and preserve everything, which both protects you and discourages them.

Document everything

Missed exchanges, last-minute changes, boundary violations, concerning things the kids report — log them factually with dates. This record matters if custody is ever contested. Unmasked's Evidence file is built for exactly this.

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Common questions

What is parallel parenting?

Parallel parenting is a low-contact arrangement where each parent handles their own time with the children independently, with minimal direct coordination — usually through a written channel or app. It's designed for high-conflict situations where cooperative co-parenting isn't safe or possible.

Should I tell my kids the truth about their other parent?

Don't bad-mouth or disparage — it harms kids and hurts you in court. Instead, be honest in age-appropriate, non-attacking ways, validate what they feel and see, and be the steady, safe parent. A child therapist can help.

How do I deal with constant conflict over messages?

Move everything to a single written channel or co-parenting app, reply only to logistics using BIFF, and don't engage bait or re-litigate the past. Document the pattern. Less surface area means less conflict.

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