A presentation marked by chronic self-harm, suicidal threats, and a relational language built on pain — theirs and yours. The most dangerous BPD variant to be the lone support for.
Hospitalizations after every major fight. Self-harm visible on her arms. "If you leave I'll kill myself" said often enough that you've stopped knowing whether to take it as threat or fact. The 988 lifeline is on your contacts. So is her treatment team.