Idealize–devalue–discard — what it means

The cycle of putting you on a pedestal, then criticizing or humiliating you, then casting you off (or threatening to).

What it looks like

Year one: you're brilliant, you saved them. Year two: you can't do anything right, why are you so much. Year three: the locks are changed, or the threat to change them runs every fight. The same person, three phases.

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