Will my partner find out I used this?

Not unless you tell them. Your reflections are private and kept to your account; nothing is sent by email by default; and you can delete your account in one click. We're built on the assumption you value your privacy.

Can I bring this to my therapist?

Yes — the report prints as a PDF, and the Companion lets you save incidents to a private evidence file you can hand a clinician. Many survivors say it's the artifact that finally moved a therapist past circling.

What if I'm wrong about them?

Good question to keep asking — and a sign of empathy, not narcissism. The reflection isn't a verdict on the person. It names patterns in behavior. A clinician makes the diagnosis; we just give you vocabulary.

Will this make things worse?

Naming what's happening tends to clarify rather than escalate. If you're in a high-risk situation (physical violence, threats with weapons, sexual coercion), please call 1-800-799-7233 before you do anything else. Safety plan first; reflection second.

The education library and the survivor community are free, forever. The deeper, personalized tools (your AI reflection, the Companion, the evidence file) are part of a paid plan. Safety planning and crisis resources are always free.

If you're asking the question, you almost certainly aren't. NPD is defined in part by the absence of that question. Asking is empathy in action.

What is a narcissistic smear campaign?

A smear campaign is the preemptive or retaliatory rewriting of your reputation — you're painted as unstable, abusive, or crazy to friends, family, coworkers, even courts, usually right before or after you leave. Its goals: isolate you, discredit anything you might reveal, and win the audience. Fighting it point-by-point usually feeds it.

Why it's so effective

They're calm and rehearsed; you're devastated and reactive — exactly the contrast the story needs. Every frantic correction you send becomes exhibit A. Smears also recruit helpers (flying monkeys) who apply social pressure sincerely.

The counter-strategy

Don't counter-smear; document. Dates, screenshots, witnesses.
Give the audience time — inconsistencies surface on their own.
Invest in the relationships that survived; they're the real ones.
If work or custody is targeted, keep it factual and get legal advice early.

What is a narcissistic smear campaign?

Why it's so effective

The counter-strategy

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