Will my partner find out I used this?

Not unless you tell them. Your reflections are private and kept to your account; nothing is sent by email by default; and you can delete your account in one click. We're built on the assumption you value your privacy.

Can I bring this to my therapist?

Yes — the report prints as a PDF, and the Companion lets you save incidents to a private evidence file you can hand a clinician. Many survivors say it's the artifact that finally moved a therapist past circling.

What if I'm wrong about them?

Good question to keep asking — and a sign of empathy, not narcissism. The reflection isn't a verdict on the person. It names patterns in behavior. A clinician makes the diagnosis; we just give you vocabulary.

Will this make things worse?

Naming what's happening tends to clarify rather than escalate. If you're in a high-risk situation (physical violence, threats with weapons, sexual coercion), please call 1-800-799-7233 before you do anything else. Safety plan first; reflection second.

The education library and the survivor community are free, forever. The deeper, personalized tools (your AI reflection, the Companion, the evidence file) are part of a paid plan. Safety planning and crisis resources are always free.

If you're asking the question, you almost certainly aren't. NPD is defined in part by the absence of that question. Asking is empathy in action.

What are flying monkeys in narcissistic abuse?

'Flying monkeys' (from The Wizard of Oz) are the people a narcissistic person recruits — knowingly or not — to pressure, guilt, spy on, or punish you on their behalf: relatives urging you to 'just apologize,' mutual friends reporting back, new partners repeating old smears. Most aren't evil; they've only heard one side, persuasively told.

How recruitment works

The narcissistic person gets there first with a sympathetic story in which they're the victim and you're unstable, cruel, or crazy. Helpers then apply pressure believing they're doing good. This is why your explanations to them so often bounce off — they came pre-inoculated.

What helps

Don't fight the smear person-by-person; live your way to credibility.
Give gray-rock answers to anyone who carries messages in either direction.
Keep one or two believers close — you need witnesses, not a jury.

What are flying monkeys in narcissistic abuse?

How recruitment works

What helps

Related questions