Will my partner find out I used this?

Not unless you tell them. Your reflections are private and kept to your account; nothing is sent by email by default; and you can delete your account in one click. We're built on the assumption you value your privacy.

Can I bring this to my therapist?

Yes — the report prints as a PDF, and the Companion lets you save incidents to a private evidence file you can hand a clinician. Many survivors say it's the artifact that finally moved a therapist past circling.

What if I'm wrong about them?

Good question to keep asking — and a sign of empathy, not narcissism. The reflection isn't a verdict on the person. It names patterns in behavior. A clinician makes the diagnosis; we just give you vocabulary.

Will this make things worse?

Naming what's happening tends to clarify rather than escalate. If you're in a high-risk situation (physical violence, threats with weapons, sexual coercion), please call 1-800-799-7233 before you do anything else. Safety plan first; reflection second.

The education library and the survivor community are free, forever. The deeper, personalized tools (your AI reflection, the Companion, the evidence file) are part of a paid plan. Safety planning and crisis resources are always free.

If you're asking the question, you almost certainly aren't. NPD is defined in part by the absence of that question. Asking is empathy in action.

Why won't anyone believe me about the abuse?

Because the person harming you invested heavily in being unbelievable-as-an-abuser: public charm, first-strike stories that framed you as unstable, and harm that leaves no bruises. Disbelief from others is a feature of covert abuse, not evidence that you're wrong. Your job is a record and a few real allies — not universal consensus.

The machinery of disbelief

The public/private split: witnesses only ever meet the performance.
Pre-emptive smears: they told their version first, sympathetically.
Invisible wounds: gaslighting and control don't photograph.
Your dysregulation shows (you're the one crying or snapping in public) — theirs doesn't.

What actually helps

Stop prosecuting the case to everyone and keep a dated private record instead. Find the one or two people who believe you — a friend, a support community, a therapist — and let time expose the pattern. It usually does.

Why won't anyone believe me about the abuse?

The machinery of disbelief

What actually helps

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