Will my partner find out I used this?

Not unless you tell them. Your reflections are private and kept to your account; nothing is sent by email by default; and you can delete your account in one click. We're built on the assumption you value your privacy.

Can I bring this to my therapist?

Yes — the report prints as a PDF, and the Companion lets you save incidents to a private evidence file you can hand a clinician. Many survivors say it's the artifact that finally moved a therapist past circling.

What if I'm wrong about them?

Good question to keep asking — and a sign of empathy, not narcissism. The reflection isn't a verdict on the person. It names patterns in behavior. A clinician makes the diagnosis; we just give you vocabulary.

Will this make things worse?

Naming what's happening tends to clarify rather than escalate. If you're in a high-risk situation (physical violence, threats with weapons, sexual coercion), please call 1-800-799-7233 before you do anything else. Safety plan first; reflection second.

The education library and the survivor community are free, forever. The deeper, personalized tools (your AI reflection, the Companion, the evidence file) are part of a paid plan. Safety planning and crisis resources are always free.

If you're asking the question, you almost certainly aren't. NPD is defined in part by the absence of that question. Asking is empathy in action.

How do I co-parent with a narcissist?

You don't co-parent with a high-conflict ex — you parallel parent: minimal direct contact, everything in writing, court orders instead of goodwill, and your energy spent making your home the stable one. The goal shifts from 'cooperate' to 'contain,' and that shift is what protects the kids.

The parallel-parenting playbook

Written channels only (email or a court-approved app) — messages read like a judge will see them, because one day they might.
BIFF replies: brief, informative, friendly, firm. No bait taken.
Exchanges at school or neutral ground, not doorsteps.
A detailed parenting plan that leaves nothing to 'work out later' — vagueness is their playground.
A dated record of violations, kept calmly and continuously.

For the kids

Never make them messengers or spies, don't counter-badmouth (it backfires), and be the calm they can count on. One stable, honest home is a powerful counterweight — children eventually compare notes with reality.

How do I co-parent with a narcissist?

The parallel-parenting playbook

For the kids

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