Will my partner find out I used this?

Not unless you tell them. Your reflections are private and kept to your account; nothing is sent by email by default; and you can delete your account in one click. We're built on the assumption you value your privacy.

Can I bring this to my therapist?

Yes — the report prints as a PDF, and the Companion lets you save incidents to a private evidence file you can hand a clinician. Many survivors say it's the artifact that finally moved a therapist past circling.

What if I'm wrong about them?

Good question to keep asking — and a sign of empathy, not narcissism. The reflection isn't a verdict on the person. It names patterns in behavior. A clinician makes the diagnosis; we just give you vocabulary.

Will this make things worse?

Naming what's happening tends to clarify rather than escalate. If you're in a high-risk situation (physical violence, threats with weapons, sexual coercion), please call 1-800-799-7233 before you do anything else. Safety plan first; reflection second.

The education library and the survivor community are free, forever. The deeper, personalized tools (your AI reflection, the Companion, the evidence file) are part of a paid plan. Safety planning and crisis resources are always free.

If you're asking the question, you almost certainly aren't. NPD is defined in part by the absence of that question. Asking is empathy in action.

How do I set boundaries with a narcissist?

A boundary is about what you will do, not about changing the other person. Keep it short, state it once, and don't over-explain — explanations just become things to argue with. Expect pushback like guilt, anger, or the silent treatment; that reaction is the boundary working, not proof you were wrong. Decide your consequence in advance and follow through calmly and consistently.

Boundaries are about you, not them

You can't make someone respect you. A boundary is your own line and your own follow-through: 'If the yelling starts, I'll end the call.' Then you actually end the call.

Keep it lean

State it once, briefly. No paragraph of justification.
Name the behavior and your response, not their character.
Decide the consequence before you need it.
Follow through every time — consistency is the whole thing.

Expect the test

A boundary with a controlling person is often met with escalation first — that's the system testing whether you mean it. Holding steady (calmly) is what teaches them it's real.

How do I set boundaries with a narcissist?

Boundaries are about you, not them

Keep it lean

Expect the test

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