Will my partner find out I used this?

Not unless you tell them. Your reflections are private and kept to your account; nothing is sent by email by default; and you can delete your account in one click. We're built on the assumption you value your privacy.

Can I bring this to my therapist?

Yes — the report prints as a PDF, and the Companion lets you save incidents to a private evidence file you can hand a clinician. Many survivors say it's the artifact that finally moved a therapist past circling.

What if I'm wrong about them?

Good question to keep asking — and a sign of empathy, not narcissism. The reflection isn't a verdict on the person. It names patterns in behavior. A clinician makes the diagnosis; we just give you vocabulary.

Will this make things worse?

Naming what's happening tends to clarify rather than escalate. If you're in a high-risk situation (physical violence, threats with weapons, sexual coercion), please call 1-800-799-7233 before you do anything else. Safety plan first; reflection second.

The education library and the survivor community are free, forever. The deeper, personalized tools (your AI reflection, the Companion, the evidence file) are part of a paid plan. Safety planning and crisis resources are always free.

If you're asking the question, you almost certainly aren't. NPD is defined in part by the absence of that question. Asking is empathy in action.

Am I overreacting, or is it emotional abuse?

Feeling like you're 'overreacting' is itself a common effect of emotional abuse — you've been trained to doubt your own reactions. Abuse isn't a single argument; it's a pattern of control: walking on eggshells, blame-shifting, and leaving conversations confused about what's real. If you regularly question your own memory and feelings after dealing with someone, that disorientation is information, not weakness.

Abuse is a pattern, not an incident

Everyone has bad arguments. Emotional abuse is the steady drip: control, contempt, and a slow erosion of your confidence in your own perception.

Signs it's more than conflict

You rehearse sentences before speaking to avoid a reaction.
You're often the one apologizing, even when you were hurt.
You feel more confused, not less, after talking it out.
Your version of events keeps getting rewritten.

If you're not sure

You don't have to prove it's 'bad enough' to deserve support. If you're in danger, call 911; in the U.S., the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233 (24/7).

Am I overreacting, or is it emotional abuse?

Abuse is a pattern, not an incident

Signs it's more than conflict

If you're not sure

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