Will my partner find out I used this?

Not unless you tell them. Your reflections are private and kept to your account; nothing is sent by email by default; and you can delete your account in one click. We're built on the assumption you value your privacy.

Can I bring this to my therapist?

Yes — the report prints as a PDF, and the Companion lets you save incidents to a private evidence file you can hand a clinician. Many survivors say it's the artifact that finally moved a therapist past circling.

What if I'm wrong about them?

Good question to keep asking — and a sign of empathy, not narcissism. The reflection isn't a verdict on the person. It names patterns in behavior. A clinician makes the diagnosis; we just give you vocabulary.

Will this make things worse?

Naming what's happening tends to clarify rather than escalate. If you're in a high-risk situation (physical violence, threats with weapons, sexual coercion), please call 1-800-799-7233 before you do anything else. Safety plan first; reflection second.

The education library and the survivor community are free, forever. The deeper, personalized tools (your AI reflection, the Companion, the evidence file) are part of a paid plan. Safety planning and crisis resources are always free.

If you're asking the question, you almost certainly aren't. NPD is defined in part by the absence of that question. Asking is empathy in action.

What is gaslighting, with examples?

Gaslighting is making someone doubt their own memory, perception, or sanity. It sounds like 'That never happened,' 'You're too sensitive,' or 'You're remembering it wrong.' Repeated over time, you stop trusting yourself and start deferring to their version of reality. If you keep leaving conversations more confused than when they started, that disorientation is the tactic working — not a flaw in you.

What it sounds like

"That never happened — you're making things up."
"You're being crazy / too sensitive / dramatic."
"I never said that," about something you clearly remember.
"Everyone agrees with me," to isolate your perspective.

Why it's so disorienting

Gaslighting attacks the one tool you'd use to check reality — your own perception. That's why victims often feel like they're 'going crazy.' You're not; you're being destabilized on purpose.

Rebuilding trust in yourself

Writing down what happened soon after, and checking it against a trusted friend, helps you anchor to your own memory again. Self-trust is the antidote.

What is gaslighting, with examples?

What it sounds like

Why it's so disorienting

Rebuilding trust in yourself

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