Dismissive-avoidant attachment — what it means

An adult attachment style marked by a strong preference for self-reliance, discomfort with emotional closeness, and a tendency to withdraw when the relationship intensifies.

What it looks like

The closer you get, the more they need a weekend alone. When you raise a feeling, they pivot to logistics. They aren't unfeeling — they're regulating distance to stay safe. Dismissive-avoidance often forms when caregivers shamed expression of need.

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