Will my partner find out I used this?

Not unless you tell them. Your reflections are private and kept to your account; nothing is sent by email by default; and you can delete your account in one click. We're built on the assumption you value your privacy.

Can I bring this to my therapist?

Yes — the report prints as a PDF, and the Companion lets you save incidents to a private evidence file you can hand a clinician. Many survivors say it's the artifact that finally moved a therapist past circling.

What if I'm wrong about them?

Good question to keep asking — and a sign of empathy, not narcissism. The reflection isn't a verdict on the person. It names patterns in behavior. A clinician makes the diagnosis; we just give you vocabulary.

Will this make things worse?

Naming what's happening tends to clarify rather than escalate. If you're in a high-risk situation (physical violence, threats with weapons, sexual coercion), please call 1-800-799-7233 before you do anything else. Safety plan first; reflection second.

The education library and the survivor community are free, forever. The deeper, personalized tools (your AI reflection, the Companion, the evidence file) are part of a paid plan. Safety planning and crisis resources are always free.

If you're asking the question, you almost certainly aren't. NPD is defined in part by the absence of that question. Asking is empathy in action.

What are the signs of a narcissistic parent?

Signs of a narcissistic parent include conditional love, treating one child as the 'golden child' and another as the scapegoat, needing to be the center of attention, dismissing your feelings, and being unable to take accountability. The deepest tell is how home felt: if you were responsible for managing a parent's emotions and never felt safe to have needs of your own, that's the pattern people point to.

It's how it felt, not just what they did

Narcissistic homes don't always look harsh from the outside. Often they just feel like you can never fully relax — like love has to be earned and could be withdrawn at any moment.

Common signs

Love and approval arrive only when you meet their needs.
Your emotions are ignored, minimized, or used against you.
Blame always lands somewhere else — usually on you.
Family roles: a golden child, a scapegoat, a peacekeeper.
No real repair after harm — 'sorry' without changed behavior.

What it leaves behind

Adults raised this way often over-apologize, struggle to know what they want, and feel guilty resting. Those were survival skills once. They can soften now.

What are the signs of a narcissistic parent?

It's how it felt, not just what they did

Common signs

What it leaves behind

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