Will my partner find out I used this?

Not unless you tell them. Your reflections are private and kept to your account; nothing is sent by email by default; and you can delete your account in one click. We're built on the assumption you value your privacy.

Can I bring this to my therapist?

Yes — the report prints as a PDF, and the Companion lets you save incidents to a private evidence file you can hand a clinician. Many survivors say it's the artifact that finally moved a therapist past circling.

What if I'm wrong about them?

Good question to keep asking — and a sign of empathy, not narcissism. The reflection isn't a verdict on the person. It names patterns in behavior. A clinician makes the diagnosis; we just give you vocabulary.

Will this make things worse?

Naming what's happening tends to clarify rather than escalate. If you're in a high-risk situation (physical violence, threats with weapons, sexual coercion), please call 1-800-799-7233 before you do anything else. Safety plan first; reflection second.

The education library and the survivor community are free, forever. The deeper, personalized tools (your AI reflection, the Companion, the evidence file) are part of a paid plan. Safety planning and crisis resources are always free.

If you're asking the question, you almost certainly aren't. NPD is defined in part by the absence of that question. Asking is empathy in action.

How long does it take to heal from narcissistic abuse?

There's no fixed timeline — most survivors describe real relief in months and deeper rebuilding over one to a few years, depending on how long it lasted, whether contact continues, and what support you have. Healing also isn't linear: setbacks are part of the path, not proof you're failing at it.

What speeds it up

Distance — ongoing contact keeps re-injuring the same wound.
Being believed — one validating witness changes the trajectory.
Naming the patterns — education turns chaos into something finite.
Trauma-informed therapy where accessible (EMDR and similar approaches help many).
Reclaimed territory: friends, money, sleep, hobbies — each one is structural repair.

What healed actually looks like

Not 'never thinking about them.' It's thinking about them without the charge — the story becoming something that happened to you, not something happening in you. Their voice in your head gets quieter, and yours gets audible again.

How long does it take to heal from narcissistic abuse?

What speeds it up

What healed actually looks like

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