Will my partner find out I used this?

Not unless you tell them. Your reflections are private and kept to your account; nothing is sent by email by default; and you can delete your account in one click. We're built on the assumption you value your privacy.

Can I bring this to my therapist?

Yes — the report prints as a PDF, and the Companion lets you save incidents to a private evidence file you can hand a clinician. Many survivors say it's the artifact that finally moved a therapist past circling.

What if I'm wrong about them?

Good question to keep asking — and a sign of empathy, not narcissism. The reflection isn't a verdict on the person. It names patterns in behavior. A clinician makes the diagnosis; we just give you vocabulary.

Will this make things worse?

Naming what's happening tends to clarify rather than escalate. If you're in a high-risk situation (physical violence, threats with weapons, sexual coercion), please call 1-800-799-7233 before you do anything else. Safety plan first; reflection second.

The education library and the survivor community are free, forever. The deeper, personalized tools (your AI reflection, the Companion, the evidence file) are part of a paid plan. Safety planning and crisis resources are always free.

If you're asking the question, you almost certainly aren't. NPD is defined in part by the absence of that question. Asking is empathy in action.

Why does no contact hurt so much if it was the right choice?

Because no contact is withdrawal, not just absence. Your nervous system was trained on intermittent reward — cruelty, then relief — and cutting the supply throws it into protest: obsessive thoughts, urges to check, physical ache. The pain is the conditioning unwinding. It peaks, it passes, and it is not a message to go back.

What the first weeks can feel like

Intrusive replays of the good moments, in high definition.
Sudden urges to check their socials 'just once' — each check restarts the clock.
Doubt storms: 'was it really that bad?' (Your record answers this.)
Actual physical symptoms — sleep, appetite, chest-ache. Withdrawal is somatic.

Getting through

Treat it like recovery, not a test of love. Count days (streaks work), block what you can, re-read your own documentation on the doubt days, and let people feed you. If a slip happens, it's data, not doom — reset the streak and notice what triggered it.

Why does no contact hurt so much if it was the right choice?

What the first weeks can feel like

Getting through

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