Will my partner find out I used this?

Not unless you tell them. Your reflections are private and kept to your account; nothing is sent by email by default; and you can delete your account in one click. We're built on the assumption you value your privacy.

Can I bring this to my therapist?

Yes — the report prints as a PDF, and the Companion lets you save incidents to a private evidence file you can hand a clinician. Many survivors say it's the artifact that finally moved a therapist past circling.

What if I'm wrong about them?

Good question to keep asking — and a sign of empathy, not narcissism. The reflection isn't a verdict on the person. It names patterns in behavior. A clinician makes the diagnosis; we just give you vocabulary.

Will this make things worse?

Naming what's happening tends to clarify rather than escalate. If you're in a high-risk situation (physical violence, threats with weapons, sexual coercion), please call 1-800-799-7233 before you do anything else. Safety plan first; reflection second.

The education library and the survivor community are free, forever. The deeper, personalized tools (your AI reflection, the Companion, the evidence file) are part of a paid plan. Safety planning and crisis resources are always free.

If you're asking the question, you almost certainly aren't. NPD is defined in part by the absence of that question. Asking is empathy in action.

Can someone have both NPD and BPD?

Yes. Personality disorders frequently overlap, and a person can meet criteria for both narcissistic and borderline patterns at once — clinicians call this co-occurrence. Traits also exist on a spectrum, so someone may show strong features of both without a formal diagnosis. What matters for you is less the exact label and more the pattern of behavior and how it affects your safety and wellbeing.

Why labels blur

The personality disorders share features like unstable relationships and difficulty with emotion. Real people rarely fit one tidy box, which is part of why self-diagnosing someone from the outside is unreliable.

Focus on impact, not the label

You can't control whether someone gets evaluated or treated. You can notice the pattern, name what's happening to you, and decide what you need to stay well.

Can someone have both NPD and BPD?

Why labels blur

Focus on impact, not the label

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