7 signs you were raised by a narcissist
What survival looked like — long before you had words for it.
If you grew up adapting to someone else's moods, these patterns make sense. They were survival once. They're allowed to soften now.
You apologize reflexively
Even for things that were never yours to carry.
You read every room
You scan moods before you let yourself relax.
Their feelings were the weather
You learned to manage everyone else's emotions first.
"I'm fine" is your default
Needs felt unsafe, so you stopped naming them.
You don't know what you want
Your preferences got overruled until they went quiet.
Kindness makes you brace
Warmth used to come with a hook attached.
Rest feels like guilt
You were valued for what you did, not who you are.
This is educational information about relationship patterns, not a diagnosis. If you recognise yourself here, the glossary defines the terms and the guides go deeper.